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You’ve been failing tests you didn’t know existed.

Forty-one things a girl notices on a first date. Most of them you could fix this week, and hardly any of them cost anything.

By Sloane Sullivan — the girl from the other side of the table.

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41Things you can actually go and do something about.

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Two pages you can screenshot and run the day before.

Everything on it is something you can go and do. The front page covers you before you leave the house. The back page is the table, the check, and what happens after.

Page one of the checklist: 48 hours before and the day of

Page two of the checklist: the table, the check, and after

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A few of the forty-one

None of this is about your looks or your money.

Six of the moments. What she’s reading in each one is on the list.

01
When you ask her out There’s a version of this that gets a yes and a version that gets “maybe, let me check.” Same guy, same girl, different sentence.
02
When she gets in your car I’m not looking at the car. There are three places I look before my seatbelt’s on, and you’ve probably never cleaned two of them.
03
When the check hits the table You get about three seconds here and I watch all three. Most of what you tell me in that window, you don’t say out loud.
04
When the order comes out wrong The only moment on this whole list with one right answer. I’ve watched a lot of men not give it.
05
When she offers to split it I already know what I want you to say. What I’m actually watching is what you do in the ten seconds after you say it.
06
When she doesn’t text back for six hours The one that ends the most of them. It’s also the easiest thing on the list to get right, which is the part that should bother you.

…and thirty-five more.

Nothing in here requires you to become someone else. It requires you to stop leaking evidence that you’re not paying attention.

Sloane

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Sloane Sullivan

Forty-one things, in the order they happen, written down for the first time. Sloane grades the same list every time she goes out. Nobody was ever going to tell a man what was on it.

The advice men get is be yourself and be confident, and neither one tells you what to do on Thursday night. What’s actually being graded is far smaller and far more specific than that. The passenger seat of your car. What you do when the order comes out wrong. Nobody writes that part down anywhere.

This is that list.

There are no lines in here and nothing to memorize.
Most of it makes you better company whether or not it works on any particular date.

Before your next one

Run the list before Thursday.

Most of what’s on it you could fix tonight if you decided to.

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